What up Survivors?
So have you ever seen Stand By Me? If you haven’t, it’s a must watch. Otherwise, do you remember the final scene when the narrator describes how he drifted apart from his closest friends?
Although this is without a doubt, one of the saddest moments in film history, it touches on a powerful truth of life and friendship. It illuminates the reality of the ebb and flow of the relationships with those around you. We’ve all faced this truth in one way or another. If you haven’t, it’s an unfortunate guarantee of life.
So how do you deal with it? I’m still trying to figure that out for myself. Unfortunately, there is no answer. Just like there’s no answer to dealing with loss or heartbreak. There’s no fix. It will always hurt when you grow apart from the people around you.
This topic was on my mind because of an event I attended this past weekend. While there, I ran into at least a dozen people who had seriously changed my life. I had always assumed that I’d be able to continue that same relationship. Be able to talk like not a day had gone by. But when it came time to finally see them, it was like we didn’t know each other. On top of that, I had no idea how to express to them everything that they had done for me. I couldn’t find the right words. It was like there was something between us keeping us separate. Some of you may understand where I’m coming from and some of you may not. For those that don’t, I hope you won’t have to cope with a similar situation. Mostly because that distance is painful. The ease at which you used to connect is absent. Kind of like air when you’re swimming. Air used to be a given. Something that always easily came to you. But now that you’re only breathing every other stroke, you have to struggle for it. But, it doesn’t make you want it any less, it actually causes you to want it more.
Relationships in all circumstances are tough. Although we all struggle with this reality, that the people closest to you may grow distant, it somehow makes those friendships even more special. Over the years, I have learned one solution to the problem. Acceptance. You can’t get rid of the pain, but you can learn to accept it. Accept that all of it is just the natural course of life. Easier said than done. However, once learned, the pain subsides and grows into appreciation. In all honesty, sometimes things fall apart to make way for new and better things. Life moves on. Although goodbyes are tough, there’s always something better waiting around the corner.
Shoutout to Stand By Me for teaching a young kid both the harsh truths and uplifting powers of friendship.
Your Friendly-Neighborhood Best Friend KC ❤